Not everything we were taught was love… was actually love. 💔

Today I’m looking in the mirror and asking: What false versions of love did I accept?

Sis, you deserve love that builds you, not breaks you. ✨

2025/9/25 Edited to

... Read moreMany of us grow up with certain beliefs about love that might not be accurate or healthy. It's common to confuse love with behaviors that are controlling, neglectful, or even harmful. For example, some may think love means enduring pain or staying in a relationship no matter what. However, genuine love is about respect, support, and mutual growth. Reflecting on the idea that "Love is not leaving" or "Love is not abandonment," it’s important to acknowledge that sometimes walking away from unhealthy relationships is an act of self-love. True love isn’t about holding on at all costs but rather about creating a safe space where both people feel valued and nurtured. If love feels like it’s breaking you down rather than building you up, it might be time to reconsider what you accept as love. You deserve a love that stays, that supports your dreams and helps you heal. That kind of love fuels confidence and happiness instead of causing heartbreak. Understanding these distinctions helps us set healthy boundaries, recognize red flags, and build relationships that enrich our lives. Remember, loving yourself enough to let go of false love opens the door for the right love to enter your life.

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