3 Signs They’re Marriage Material

My husband and I casually dated on and off for 3 years before we were “official” and let’s just say neither of us were looking like marriage material at that point. But once we got together, we both saw big changes in the other and we were living together before our one year anniversary and married before the second.

Here are the signs that I knew he was marriage material:

#1 We wanted the same things out of life

We both wanted a life with big careers but still time for family. We wanted to start businesses (together and apart). We wanted to stay on the east coast but weren’t tied to any particular city. We both wanted houses big enough for our parents to have a bed when they visited. We both wanted kids but we're okay if they didn’t happen.

We were aligned on all the things that make up how you live your life. Ironically, we have just about zero of the same interests. But IMHO that doesn’t matter. We spend a few hours a week on our hobbies and it’s nice to have that built in alone time.

#2 He treated my family like his own

The first time he met my mom I kept thanking him for clearing his entire weekend to hang out with us. His response “Stop thanking me, I loved your mom! She’s just like you and I love hanging out with you, don’t I?” Ever since he says yes to every single family visit and does so with nothing but grace and generosity.

#3 He comes around

I don’t mean he always says yes (though he often does). But he thinks about what I asked and always circles back to talk about it. He's so thoughtful and doesn’t need to be nagged to consider something I’ve asked him. Even if his impulse is to say no, he does often come around to agree with me after thinking it through.

What made you know your partner was marriage material?

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2023/7/5 Edited to

... Read moreBuilding on the wonderful insights shared about recognizing a truly special partner, I've also learned that what makes someone "marriage material" goes beyond a few specific traits. It's about a holistic partnership that fosters growth, respect, and enduring love. It's an exciting journey, much like seeing those newlywed couples, dressed in wedding attire, kissing outdoors and walking hand-in-hand, ready to build a life together. From my own experience and observing others, I've come to understand that being "marriage material" isn't just about the initial spark of love, but about a shared vision and a consistent willingness to put in effort. It hinges significantly on emotional intelligence – how your partner handles conflict, expresses their feelings, and, crucially, how well they listen. A healthy marriage thrives on both partners feeling truly heard and understood. It's also vital to respect differences; while the original article mentions not sharing hobbies, mutual respect for each other's individuality and passions is paramount. Can you adapt and grow together when life throws curveballs? That adaptability is a cornerstone. Beyond the specific signs, certain healthy marriage traits truly stand out. Communication, for instance, is king. It's not just about talking, but engaging in open, honest dialogue, especially when discussing tough topics. This proactive approach helps prevent misunderstandings and addresses potential issues before they become signs he doesn't love you. Teamwork also plays a huge role. While a 50/50 relationship meaning doesn't always mean an exact split of labor every single day, it signifies both partners consistently showing up, contributing their best, and pulling together in all aspects – from chores to emotional support and big decisions. It’s about being a unified front. Nurturing connection through quality time with wife (or husband, or partner) is another essential element. Even with demanding careers, making dedicated time for each other – being present, sharing small moments, and actively building your shared life – keeps the bond strong. It’s about valuing each other enough to prioritize that connection. And of course, being a profound support system. Is your partner your biggest cheerleader? Do they celebrate your wins as their own and lift you up during struggles? This extends the idea of treating your family like gold to your chosen family – each other. If you're still wondering how to know if someone is marriage material, here are a few girlfriend questions to ask yourself: Do you feel safe, respected, and truly yourself around them? Do they inspire you to be a better person? Can you genuinely imagine navigating life's inevitable challenges with them by your side? Observe how they treat others – waitstaff, strangers, their own family – as this often reveals their true character. Most importantly, do their actions consistently match their words? Ultimately, recognizing partner material meaning is about finding someone who not only meets these essential criteria but also makes you feel cherished, understood, and excited for a future together. It's about building a foundation for a beautiful, lasting life.

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