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POV: you lost yourself trying to care for others

this feels like a new level of desperation.

but apparently that’s what this glow up journey is all about??

pls give me all the recs 🤍

2025/4/23 Edited to

In today's fast-paced world, it's common to lose sight of ourselves while trying to support those we care about. This article captures a moment of vulnerability and emphasizes the importance of self-care. For anyone on a glow-up journey, it’s crucial to recognize the signs of desperation as a call for renewal. Self-esteem can be dramatically impacted by our relationships, and understanding how to balance caring for others while prioritizing your well-being is vital. Consider these seven steps to improve self-esteem: 1) Set boundaries; 2) Foster independence; 3) Practice self-compassion; 4) Reflect on personal achievements; 5) Engage in activities you love; 6) Surround yourself with positivity; and 7) Seek professional help if needed. Also, look into literature like "Change to Love Yourself" for deeper insights into the interconnection of self-esteem and relationships. Prioritizing personal growth not only enriches your life but also enhances the connections you have with others.

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Where did u find that?? ❤️

That's me I care for others to put and put myself on the back burner

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