Whose my other half?

Many times when it comes to thinking of #relationship, we tend to have the thoughts of is this person the right one? What if things don’t work out? Will we fight and argue?

Thoughts of insecurities comes into our minds.

Do I have the answers to how to get the right partner, no I don’t but here are the things that I learnt from someone and how I apply it to myself.

1. Character 😇

We want someone with ✅ Character, someone honest, others center, lovable, etc and

NOT ❌ someone that is always prideful, arrogant, complacent, child like attitude 😡

2. Convictions 🕶️

What is your vision and values?

What you priorities and what they priorities first could be different and it could become and argument when both don’t agree with each other even though both things may be good or bad.

For instance, when one places family over work while the other party places work over family both could have good mindset behind why but if both don’t have the same vision or goals / understanding it could become a conflict.

3. Chemistry 🧪

The wavelengths, feelings that we have for one another

4. Compatibility ❤️

Such as looks, interest, likes and dislikes

Looks is not really a full key factor for me but it still plays abit when it comes to me choosing someone

and lastly it’s

5. Commitment 🤝

Besides spending time together, would we continue to respect and be there for our partner no matter what situation or set backs they are in or facing

But honestly~

Instead of just focusing on choosing the right life partner, the other key thing you could do first is

FIRST focus on growing yourself on becoming that right person

And after all in a relationship and marriage it takes 2 hands in order for it to work out, it is about a give and take from time to time.

And I believe as much as light will attract light the sad truth is light attracts dark too, but with the discernment and filtering you will find that better someone for yourself 😀

If you have any #thoughts feel free to voice out here too haha

Or if there’s any #topic you wanna talk about feel free to #drop me a dm ~

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2024/1/9 Edited to

... Read moreWhen searching for your perfect partner, it's easy to get overwhelmed by doubts or questions about compatibility. From my experience, building a strong relationship starts with clear communication and honesty. I've realized that knowing what truly matters to you—whether it's family, career, or personal growth—helps you avoid many conflicts down the road. It's also important to recognize that no one is perfect, and expecting flawless chemistry or compatibility can set you up for disappointment. Focus instead on mutual respect and shared convictions. For example, one partner might prioritize family time, while the other values career development. Finding a balance or understanding these differences is key. Another insight is to work on becoming the person you want to attract. When you embody qualities like honesty, kindness, and commitment, you're more likely to meet someone who reflects those same values. Remember, relationships involve give and take, patience, and openness to grow together. Being aware of red flags like pride or complacency helps you avoid unhealthy patterns. Ultimately, trusting your instincts and using discernment can guide you to someone who matches your vision for a life partner. Keep an open heart but stay grounded in your values, and you'll find that special someone who respects and supports you.

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