Actually, I...
- Yeah.
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Recently, unusual for me
Regardless of work or private life
There are many opportunities to interact with various people
Of course, there is a feeling of "fun" and a sense of fulfillment
Maybe because of the high human level of the people I meet
(This is actually a very good thing.)
strangely, my roughness stands out and i feel depressed
There is also such a feeling
For better or worse, it s time to face yourself again.
I feel like it's coming.
Among the many problems, one that I particularly dislike is
The point is that you talk too much about unnecessary things.
As expected, I've been learning a little recently
Although the obvious failures have decreased considerably compared to the past
Even so, when I suddenly became calm
"I wonder why I talked about that..."
The opportunity to become so-so.
When you open the lid like this
Unexpectedly, the other person is thinking the same thing
in fact, they may be on the same level
After all, it's easy to see others well
Why can everyone do it right?
Only I can't do it. "
It's not uncommon to get depressed.
Each time I feel the difficulty of solving this problem.
Of course, it's not good to talk too much
So, should I not say anything?
it just doesn't feel normal.
I desperately want skill and sense these days, lol
for the time being
What I think I have to learn is "calmness."
most of the patterns i regret in conversations
I was swept away by the air at that time
I'm too worried about something, my heart isn't here
Because it's time to become like
no matter what the circumstances are
when i'm with people, i want to come to my senses.
words and actions that could later become black history
I want to prevent it as much as possible.
It's a little lonely, but
The purpose of conversation is to deepen friendship with the other person.
(Not a place to solve your problems)
With that in mind, um
Useless self-hatred and regret
I want to prevent it as much as possible.
Delicate-san # delicate I want to connect with Delicate-san # hsp # hsp temperament
HSPの人との付き合い方についてもっと実践的なアドバイスを共有したいと思います。私自身、会話中に余計なことを話してしまうと感じることは多く、帰宅後に反省会をすることもしばしばです。ですが、それはHSPならではの繊細さや感受性の高さからくるものだと理解しています。 まず、HSPの方は「別に人自体が嫌いなわけではない」という気持ちを持っていることが多いですが、人付き合いの初めだけはうまくいっても、その後に気疲れや自分の発言への不安が増してしまう傾向があります。私もまさにその典型で、表面上はヘラヘラしながらも、心の中は時に焦りや不安でいっぱいになることがあります。 そのため、会話や人間関係で後悔しないためには「冷静さ」を持つことがとても大切です。会話中に焦って早口になったり、言わなくても良いことを言ってしまうことがあるので、例えば息を深く吸って一呼吸置く習慣をつけています。そうすることで、心が少し落ち着き、言葉を選びやすくなりました。 また、完璧を求めるあまりに自分に対して厳しくなりすぎず、うまくいかない日があっても自分を責めすぎないことも大切です。完璧主義なのにズボラな一面も自分として受け入れて、自己肯定感を少しずつ育てています。 私の経験では、HSP気質の方は、最初の人付き合いはスムーズでも、長く続けるには工夫が必要です。無理にたくさん話すより「相手に寄り添うこと」を意識し、会話の目的は親睦を深めることだと考えると肩の力が抜けます。 画像にある「1. 別に人自体が嫌いなわけではない」や「3. 帰宅後はたいていひとり反省会」、「8. 自己肯定感底辺だけど自分を好きになりたい」といったキーワードは、まさにHSPの繊細な心をよく表していると思います。私も同じように感じており、同じ悩みを抱える方への励ましになれば嬉しいです。
