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Would it be healthy to leave or stay?

My BF and I woke up, then went to make coffee and breakfast before my classes. But while we waited for the coffee, he started shadow boxing me, pretending to punch, since he boxes. I asked him four times to stop. I even told him the fifth time I was dead serious but he acted like he couldn’t hear me.

I snapped and dumped a glass of water on him. He followed, yelling for me to clean up. When I said it was his fault for not listening, I got up (his mattress is on the floor) and he shoved me hard back down. Did it again when I stood up. I said I was leaving, he hid my clothes bag, then shoved me again and screamed for me to get out. But when I tried to leave, he held my stuff hostage.

I finally got to my car, but he took my phone to make me come back. Later he tried to “reason” but this is a dealbreaker. I vowed never to stay if a guy puts his hands on me. He’s sweet sometimes, but is this normal in healthy relationships?

#Letschat #Asklemon8 #Stirthepot #RelationshipRedFlags

2025/10/23 Edited to

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Playing around is normal but not listening when your partner says stop or quit it and then chasing you down yelling at you and shoving you is NOT normal. Pack your stuff and leave before you wind up pregnant and feeling stuck, because if he feels that ballsy about "playing around" and yelling it will only get worse

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