Another sit-down conversation I absolutely was NOT equipped for today. 😂🤣
I work in SALES, so when somebody asks for me by name, I’m automatically taken out of rotation. That means I could be greeting the next person ready to spend money. 🤦🏾♂️
BUT…if it’s a friend who genuinely needs to talk, I’m going to make time.
So today, a former coworker sits down and tells me, “My ghosting isn’t working.”
I said, “Ma’am…WHAT?” 😂
Apparently, she likes this dude, but instead of communicating with him, she decided to ghost him—meaning she intentionally stopped responding, calling, texting, or engaging with him without explaining why.
Her strategy?
“I figured if I stopped talking to him, he’d chase me harder.”
Well…Houston, we have a problem. 😂
Now he isn’t calling like he used to, and she recently saw him with his ex-girlfriend.
I just sat there thinking, “So…you disappeared from somebody’s life and now you’re surprised they continued living?” 🤦🏾♂️🤣
Listen, I’m not saying everybody deserves unlimited access to you. Boundaries are biblical. Discernment is biblical. And sometimes walking away is absolutely necessary.
But silent treatment, manipulation, and ghosting aren’t communication.
Proverbs 15:1 reminds us that a gentle answer can turn away wrath. Scripture repeatedly encourages us to speak truth, pursue peace, and deal honestly with people.
And honestly? I think COVID taught some people how to isolate—but it also revealed how deeply human beings need connection.
People want companionship. They want to feel valued. They want somebody who communicates.
So if you like somebody, stop playing spiritual hide-and-seek. 😂
Use your words. Communicate. Be honest.
Because sometimes the person you’re ghosting isn’t chasing you…
They’re just moving on. 😳
In modern relationships, ghosting has become a common but often misunderstood behavior. It’s the act of suddenly cutting off all communication without explanation, usually in hopes the other person will chase or change. However, relying on ghosting as a strategy usually backfires, as seen in the story where someone ghosted a person they liked expecting more attention, only to find he moved on instead. Ghosting fails because it leaves the other person confused, hurt, and without closure. People naturally seek connection and reassurance — the silence of ghosting disrupts that basic human need. Instead, effective communication—particularly honest and respectful dialogue—builds mutual understanding. Proverbs 15:1 beautifully states, "A gentle answer turns away wrath," highlighting the power of kind words in easing conflicts. Setting clear boundaries is crucial, and so is discernment. Not every relationship or interaction requires unlimited access, but silence and manipulation like ghosting are not healthy ways to enforce those limits. COVID-19 deepened isolation for many, and while solitude has value, it also underscored how vital connection is to emotional well-being. If you’re interested in someone, openly expressing your feelings, sharing concerns, or even candidly discussing boundaries encourages trust and respect. Using words rather than silence respects both your feelings and the other person's autonomy. In summary, ghosting often hurts both parties. Real connection grows through honesty, gentle communication, and respect. So, if you’re tempted to ghost someone, consider a different approach: speak your truth, pursue peace, and create space for genuine connection.