Find Your Style

Stop chasing every trend (even if it’s cute)

Every time a new micro trend pops up, it feels like everyone suddenly owns the same top, the same bag, the same vibe. And if you’ve ever bought something just because it was “everywhere,” then wore it once and never again… same 😭

The biggest shift for me was this question: “Could I see myself wearing this next month?” Not “Would it look good in one photo?” Not “Is it trending this week?” Literally: next month, real life, real errands, real plans.

If the answer is no, it’s not meant to be. That one filter question saves money, closet space, and so much “why did I buy this” energy.

Start with staples, then build your aesthetic on top

If you’re trying to find your personal style, staples are your best friend. They’re the base that makes experimenting feel easy instead of chaotic. Think of staples like the “quiet” pieces that let your “loud” pieces shine.

Staples don’t have to be boring. They just have to be repeatable. Pieces you can wear on a random Tuesday and still feel like yourself.

Some staple categories that make outfit building way less stressful:

1) A reliable top formula (like a fitted tee, a tank, or a button-up shape you always reach for)

2) A bottom silhouette you love (baggy jeans, straight-leg pants, mini skirt, parachute pants—whatever makes you feel confident)

3) A layering piece (overshirt, light jacket, cardigan, or something you can throw on when the outfit feels “unfinished”)

4) A shoe direction (sleek, chunky, sporty, or classic—this affects your whole vibe more than people realize)

Once you have a base, experimenting becomes fun: patterns, textures, accessories, and different aesthetics can rotate in without your closet feeling like five different people live there.

Pick 2–3 style words (and let them guide every purchase)

One of the easiest ways to “find your style” without overthinking is choosing a few style keywords. Not a full aesthetic label you have to live by—just words that describe what you want your outfits to feel like.

Examples you can mix and match:

Clean (simple lines, polished, minimal)

Soft (light colors, delicate details, gentle shapes)

Edgy (contrast, hardware, darker tones, statement pieces)

Sporty (streetwear energy, relaxed fits, functional details)

Classic (timeless silhouettes, structured pieces, “always works”)

Then when you shop (online or in person), you’re not asking “Is this trendy?” You’re asking: Does this match my words? That’s how you stop impulse buying and start building a wardrobe that actually looks like you.

Try “aesthetic sampling” without committing your whole closet

I love so many aesthetics. Like one day I want clean and polished, the next day I want streetwear, then suddenly I’m in a soft/coquette mood, then I’m saving grunge photos again 😅

The trick is sampling aesthetics in small, low-risk ways:

Accessories first (jewelry, belts, bags, hair details)

One statement piece at a time (a patterned skirt, a graphic tee, a lace top)

Color palette experiments (try adding one new color “family” before switching everything)

This way you can explore different fashion styles without feeling like you wasted money when your mood changes.

Outfit formulas that match popular aesthetics (but still feel personal)

Instead of copying a full outfit from a photo, I like using outfit formulas. It’s the same idea, but you can swap pieces based on what you already own. That’s how your style stays yours.

Clean girl vibe (simple, fresh, put-together)

This vibe is all about looking effortless but intentional. The silhouette is usually clean, the colors feel calm, and everything looks “neat.”

Formula: fitted top + straight pants/jeans + simple bag + minimal jewelry

To make it feel more personal, choose one signature detail: a specific neckline you love, a favorite hair style, or one accessory you always wear.

Old money / classic polished (structured, timeless energy)

This isn’t about being “fancy,” it’s about structure and restraint. Clean shapes, quality-looking textures, and outfits that don’t rely on loud graphics.

Formula: crisp top + tailored bottom + structured outer layer + understated accessories

If you want this vibe but still like trends, keep the trend in one place only (like a modern shoe shape) and keep everything else classic.

Coquette (soft, delicate, romantic details)

This style is all about softness: bows, lace, light textures, gentle silhouettes. It can be subtle or full-on, depending on your comfort level.

Formula: soft top + skirt or fitted pants + delicate jewelry + one “cute” detail

The easiest entry point is adding one coquette element to a basic outfit—like a ribbon detail, a soft cardigan, or a dainty accessory—so it doesn’t feel like a costume.

Y2K (playful, bold, a little nostalgic)

Y2K can be super fun, but it’s also the easiest to overbuy because the pieces feel “so specific.” If you want Y2K without regret, focus on silhouettes you’ll still like later.

Formula: cropped or fitted top + low/mid-rise inspired bottom + statement accessories

Even better: keep the base neutral and let the accessories do the Y2K talking.

Streetwear (relaxed, cool, accessory-heavy)

Streetwear is where you can play with proportions and accessories. It’s also one of the easiest styles to remix because the pieces are usually comfortable and repeatable.

Formula: graphic tee or tank + baggy jeans/parachute pants + layered jewelry + belt/bag

What makes streetwear feel “done” is the styling: stacking accessories, intentional layers, and a clear silhouette (either oversized on top + relaxed bottom, or fitted top + baggy bottom).

If you want a quick checklist for streetwear styling, these details change everything:

Jewelry stacking: layered necklaces, multiple rings, cuffs, or lots of bracelets

Bag choice: a structured shoulder bag or a practical crossbody shape

Extras: belt, hat, keychain detail, or glasses as part of the look

And yes—double tanks can look so good. Layering two simple tops instantly makes the outfit feel styled, not random.

Grunge (messy-cool, textured, a little undone)

Grunge isn’t just “dark clothes.” It’s contrast, texture, and that slightly imperfect vibe (in a good way). If your closet already leans grunge but your personality feels more boho, you can blend them—those two actually mix really well.

Formula: worn-in tee + relaxed jeans/skirt + textured layer + heavier accessories

Try mixing soft boho textures (like flowy layers) with grunge staples (like darker tones or chunkier details). That mix can become your signature.

90s-inspired (simple, confident, wearable)

90s style is one of the easiest to wear repeatedly because it’s not overly complicated. It’s clean silhouettes, comfortable fits, and that “I didn’t try too hard” confidence.

Formula: simple top + straight jeans + clean accessories

If you’re overwhelmed by aesthetics, a 90s-inspired base is a great “home base” wardrobe. You can layer any vibe on top of it later.

Use the “next month test” before you buy anything

This is the habit that changes everything. Before you buy a piece, ask:

1) Can I name 3 outfits with items I already own?

2) Would I wear this next month in real life?

3) Does it match my 2–3 style words?

If you can’t answer these, it’s usually a micro-trend purchase waiting to happen. And micro trends aren’t “bad,” but they’re not the best foundation when you’re still figuring out your style.

Make a mini “style map” (so your closet stops feeling random)

If you love multiple aesthetics, you don’t have to pick only one. The goal is to make them feel connected. A simple way is building a style map with three lanes:

Lane 1: Everyday default (what you wear most often)

Lane 2: Going out / statement (what you wear when you want extra energy)

Lane 3: Comfort / off-duty (what you wear when you want to feel cozy but still cute)

Example: your everyday could be clean + 90s-inspired, your statement lane could be streetwear or Y2K, and your comfort lane could be soft/coquette basics. When you shop, you’ll know which lane the item belongs to, and your wardrobe starts to make sense.

Quick closet reset: a realistic way to “discover your style”

If you want a practical reset without doing the most:

Step 1: Pull out 10 outfits you’ve worn more than once. Take notes on what repeats (silhouette, colors, accessories).

Step 2: Save 15 outfit photos that feel like “you.” Don’t overthink the labels—just save what you’d actually wear.

Step 3: Find the overlap between your real outfits and your saved outfits. That overlap is your personal style core.

Step 4: Choose 2–3 style words based on that core and keep them in your notes app.

Step 5: Next time you want to buy something, run the next month test.

Tell me what you’re stuck on

If you’re torn between aesthetics (like boho chic vs grunge, or clean girl vs streetwear), that’s normal. Style isn’t a single box—it’s a mix you refine over time.

Drop the vibe you’re trying to build (or the two aesthetics you keep bouncing between), and what you wear most days. I can help turn it into a simple outfit formula you can actually repeat 🤍