things I finally let go of after my diagnosis

So much of being late diagnosed is realizing the things you spent years being embarrassed by were never things to be embarrassed about at all. For a long time these differences felt like proof that something was wrong with me. Now I have the language and the understanding to see them for what they

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ADHD waiting mode, one of the most disruptive and least talked about parts of the ADHD experience. Something that has helped me personally is treating waiting mode as data instead of a moral failing. When I notice I've been in it for hours, I stop trying to force myself to start big tasks and inst

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The luteal phase is genuinely one of the most under discussed aspects of ADHD in women, and one of the biggest reasons so many of us feel like we're losing it a full week out of every month. When estrogen drops, so does dopamine, which means every symptom of ADHD gets amplified at the exact same t

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Reminders for the version of me who didn't know she was autistic

So much of being late diagnosed is realizing that the things you were fighting against in yourself were never problems to fix. They were signals to listen to. I spent years overriding every one of these, thinking discipline or willpower would get me to the version of myself I was supposed to be. W

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Level 1 autism, one of the most misunderstood presentations, especially in women. The word "level" implies that support needs are static and easy to measure, when in reality they fluctuate constantly depending on environment, capacity, and how much you've already spent that day. Being "level 1" in

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Autism is not a trend, it never was and never will be. What appears to be "trending" are conversations that have been missing from the diagnostic dialogue for years and left so many of us excluded from autism representation entirely. Autism in women is one of the most consistently missed and misdi

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Autistic shutdowns, the quieter, less visible cousin of the meltdown, and often the one that goes completely unrecognized by everyone around you, including yourself. The "I promise I'm not ignoring you" one is the one that has caused me the most guilt personally. From the outside a shutdown can lo

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Kinda chic actually

The kinda chic era, specifically the version where you finally stop trying to override your brain and body and start letting them lead. Some of these took me years to get to. The accommodating myself instead of pushing through was probably the hardest shift, because I had built so much of my ident

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Honestly every single one of these is personally called out. The perfectionism one is the one that took me the longest to see clearly. For years I thought I just had really high standards. Turns out I was quietly overcompensating for executive dysfunction I didn't know I had, and the perfectionism

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ADHD and dopamine seeking, some of the most common behaviors that fly under the radar as "just habits." More examples: opening and closing the fridge, checking your phone every 90 seconds, needing background noise for every task, online shopping you don't remember doing, starting new projects befo

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AuDHD calm, a very stable and completely reliable state as long as approximately 47 conditions are met at all times. I like to call it having a Type C personality. Follow for more content that takes the emotional stakes of a plan change seriously. • #AuDHD #ADHDWomen #AutisticWomen #ny

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AuDHD sensory triggers, an ever growing list 🙃 • Which one is your personal villain? Mine is people chewing with their mouth open, smacking and gum popping, immediate no 🙅🏼‍♀️ • # #audhd # #nyc # #nyccreator # #audhdtiktok # #adhdtiktok

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Cycle syncing with ADHD, one of the most underrated tools for women with ADHD and something that took me way too long to actually try for myself. The shift for me was realizing that the weeks I felt like my medication "wasn't working" or that I was suddenly falling apart weren't random. They lined

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Turns out it was executive dysfunction

Late diagnosed ADHD, the specific experience of realizing that half of what you thought made you who you are was actually just an untreated neurological difference. I spent years thinking I wasn’t good at adulting or life, but the reality was I was living with a brain that struggled with executi

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The ADHD brain is always looking for the next dopamine hit. Most of us figured that out by recognizing ourselves in a list like this one. If you are ready to actually understand what is driving these patterns, I am accepting new clients. Link in bio. • #ADHDWomen #ADHDDopamine #adhdtherapis

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This is one of those changes that sounds small but actually matters. PCOS has been misunderstood for years partly because of its own name. Renaming it PMOS better reflects what is actually happening in the body, which means better recognition, fewer missed diagnoses, and hopefully more women getti

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Little habits that keep my ADHD functional

ADHD brain hacks, none of them revolutionary, all of them the difference between me functioning like a normal person and completely falling apart on a Tuesday. The shoes one is the one I resisted the longest and now can't imagine life without. There is something about being physically ready that t

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Everything is linked in my bio 🫶Drop your budget favs below 👇 • #AuDHD #adhd #worththehype #adhdhacks #adhdtips

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Autistic meltdowns are one of the most misunderstood parts of the autistic experience, especially in women who mask so well that no one, including themselves, sees them coming. What I really want people to understand is that a meltdown is not a tantrum or an overreaction. It's a nervous system tha

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We can’t have this documentary without addressing sexism in psychology. Late diagnosed ADHD and autistic women, the ones who slipped through every screening because we were quiet, high achieving, or just really good at masking. Masking is the part I think gets misunderstood the most. It is years

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Bailey Pilant | ADHD Therapist