Children adapt to survive. Sometimes those adaptations become useful skills: creativity, independence, problem-solving, observation, humor. Often they become struggles: hypervigilance, dissociation, perfectionism, distrust, aggression, people-pleasing, or feeling responsible for everything and

On day 3,052 of getting Aziza’s Law passed. We made the news! Thank you to @theenaomiyane for helping to bring attention to this effort. Fun fact: @kurtsiegelin was one of my professors at @wpunj

The perspectives of a single moment can make the truth also a lie. I’ve been challenged by family (including my sisters) because of their perspective on a situation. For instance, while my first sister knew that I was resistant to the life my father trapped me in (she worked quite hard at helping t

It was a mother-son date at the @peach.cobbler.fac3 Shout out to Chad and the entire Newark #PeachCobblerFactory team for taking care of us and making us feel welcomed. The original peach cobbler is my fave! We’ll be back! #jerseygirl #njsummer

I’m grateful for my experiences with those I’ve loved and lost over the years. I can confidently say that while my tolerance for aggression has been and still is very limited, everyone I meet is like a blank canvas waiting for us to create a masterpiece together. #healingjourney

Making it an Ayindé literally means making the best of a crazy situation. #familydynamics @NETFELIX @Netflix Series #netflix

Don’t mind me.

It may have taken almost two decades to SAFELY escape my father, but I did it. It may have taken three years to get my children back from foster care, but I did it. It may have taken years to heal from my experiences, but I did it. No matter where you come from or even where you are in this mom

Cult leaders—in the negative sense—are predators. They prey on the vulnerable and control, exploit and oppress their victims for personal gain. Many who have been exposed for filth are sexual predators. I can understand why people assume my father was a cult leader. Shout out to Jasmin of @placed.

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Everyone’s a professional critic these days. Lol 😂 #healingjourney

They call it falling in love because there’s no way you can do this intentionally. ❤️‍🔥💗💔🖤 #healingjourney

Replying to @Humility Abuse survivors are all on the same journey. However, we have different maps and take different paths. That being said, what we all have in common is that we have to take the first step—. And then the next. There are many mechanisms you can use to help you along. What can

Someone very close to me recently told me to try to live my life based only on my life after escaping my father—that I should function and behave like more than 24 years of my life didn’t occur. I was baffled and hurt by this statement because, while I understand the hypothesis behind it, how can

“We Stand for Justice,” a special informational event regarding #AzizasLaw , featuring a special presentation from @naacpnjsc Executive Director, @danni.combs ! Please join us as we continue to push the needle forward in making #incest illegal in NJ. Thursday, June 18th, at 6:30 PM. The reg

I’m curious to know what geography has to do with it. SA exists everywhere, and anyone who believes otherwise is disillusioned. #unashamed #comments

Get my memoir, Unashamed: a life tainted… at the link in my bio, or the ebook on Amazon. Thank you to Greater Friendship Baptist Church for honoring me at their annual Pink and Pearls luncheon. Congratulations to the deserving honorees. #sunday