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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 Guilt doesn’t always mean you did something wrong. Sometimes guilt just means… you did something different. You said no and didn’t turn it into a paragraph. You didn’t fix it when somebody got u

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 You are allowed to disappoint people. Yeah. I said it. Because some of us have spent so much time trying not to disappoint everybody else that we never stopped to ask: What about all the times I di

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 She stopped asking for permission. And here came the attitude: “Who does she think she is?” Well… maybe that’s the damn point. Because some of us have spent so much time making sure everybody el

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After session w Dr. Nicky J …

Session may be over for this week, but sometimes something gets said that makes us stay a little longer. 🤎

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Dear Diary, it’s time for another therapeutic refill. Some of us would rather carry a difficult feeling for six months than have a difficult conversation for six minutes. We’ll replay it in the shower. Think about what we should’ve said. Talk about it with everybody except the person we

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 Maybe you were never “the strong one.” Maybe you became the strong one because there was no room for you to fall apart. Maybe you became independent because depending on people disappointed you. Ma

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 “I have people.” Okay—but do your people actually know you? Because you can have a spouse, friends, coworkers, family, a whole community and still be doing everything alone. You show up. You help.

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 Where you’re standing was once the goal. You wanted acceptance. You got it — then moved the bar. You wanted the degree. Got it — next thing. You wanted the job. Got it — what’s next? You wanted

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 The antidote to anxiety is not calm. It’s trust. Because sometimes anxiety isn’t asking you to calm down. It’s asking, “Do you trust yourself?” When you’ve spent years people-pleasing, overfunction

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 People-pleasing has convinced a lot of us that every boundary needs a PowerPoint presentation. It doesn’t. Sometimes we overexplain because somewhere along the way we learned that “no” wasn’t enou

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 Healing isn’t when the pain stops. It’s when the patterns do. The pain isn’t always what keeps us stuck. Sometimes it’s the pattern. The pattern of overexplaining. The pattern of saying yes wh

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Dear Diary… It’s time for another therapeutic refill… But first… how you doin’? 🤎 Fear does not always sound like fear. Sometimes it sounds responsible. Realistic. Careful. Prepared. Sometimes it tells you to wait until you are certain. To choose what is familiar. To avo

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 Sometimes the hardest part is not knowing how close you are. You have been trying. Waiting. Adjusting. Doing the heart work. And still wondering whether anything is actually moving. Cousin

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 Some of us learned to make ourselves smaller so other people would feel more comfortable. Lower the expectation. Quiet the dream. Hide the excitement. Act like we do not care that much—just in c

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 Healing does not always feel good. Sometimes you are making progress… and still grieving. Setting boundaries… and still missing them. Choosing yourself… and still feeling guilty. Moving

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 Sometimes we stay because leaving feels harder. We stay in the relationship. The friendship. The job. The role. The version of ourselves that no longer fits. Not because we still belong th

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 Somewhere along the way, many of us learned to edit ourselves. Do not be too loud. Do not ask for too much. Do not stand out. Do not make something unless you know it will be good. Do not try

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I’m a therapist… just not your therapist… yet. 🤎 One thing I do to make my brain happy before seeing clients in my private practice? I put on a fit. Every. Single. Time. What’s one thing that instantly shifts your mood?

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Hello Dear Healing Cousins, It’s time for another check-in… But first, how you doin’? 🤎 Some of us do not fear the unknown because we are negative. We fear it because uncertainty has not always felt safe. Not knowing what comes next can make the mind start filling in the blanks: Somet

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Dear Diary… It’s time for another therapeutic refill But first… how you doin’? 🤎 A “no” can feel like the end of the story. The relationship ended. The opportunity disappeared. The plan changed. The door closed before you were ready. And for a while, grief may convince you th

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