All right. We have talked about fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. Did you know there was a fifth one? It is called Flag and Faint, or Flop. The least talked about nervous system response. Complete collapse when the body has nothing left. And let's be clear. This is not the same as freeze.

Alright, so far I have told y'all about fight, flight, and freeze. Let's talk about the fourth one: fawn. You ever find yourself jumping to attention when someone walks in upset? Parent comes home mad and you instantly start cleaning, tidying, making yourself useful before they even say

What happens when you just... stop. Let's talk about this version. Not crying. Not spiraling. Just blank. Maybe staring at nothing. My baby was upset the other week, as babies tend to do, and I could see her puffs right there and I just could not get myself to reach for them. Not because

There is a fantasy I have had more than once. Even before I was a mom. Just getting in the car. Driving somewhere alone. No one around. No baby. No to do list. No bills. Just quiet. And then immediately the judgment comes: what kind of person fantasizes about leaving her own family. I used

Something snapped in me the other night. And it was over a play yard fence. I was trying to unlock the corner piece so it could be folded up. It would not cooperate. I could feel the rage bubbling up and I snapped at my husband. I sat down and he laughed at something and I assumed, because I was

Part three. The part where we talk about what to actually do. First, the most important reframe. The goal is not to eliminate the restlessness. Your nervous system is not broken. It is understimulated and looking for input. You cannot think your way out of that. You have to work with it. I us

If you have spent years being treated for anxiety and still feel like something is missing, this is part two of my ADHD in women series and I need you to keep reading. ADHD restlessness and anxious restlessness can feel identical from the outside. From the inside they are actually pretty differe

You held all the pieces together with an intricate set of systems. Though they are invisible they looked like schedules, deadlines, "places for things" all to keep you on track. People may have referred to you as scattered, a lot, feral. You managed it all. Then you had a baby and the wh

Because of recent things involving my own parents and my husband's parents, I have been more reflective on what becoming a parent has taught me about my own childhood. Becoming a parent did not just bring me a new sense of love and responsibility for my daughter. It changed how I saw my alre

It's World Breastfeeding Week this week and I want to talk about the version you don't always see a lot of posts about. I exclusively pump. My daughter gets breast milk. She also gets a mom who has planned every outing, event, and nap around a pump schedule since December. When you ex