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I think it's just me? [HSP]

- Yeah.

- Yeah.

The other day, when I was meeting with a friend

I got a call saying, "The train is late and will be delayed by about 5 minutes."

I just needed to go to the bathroom.

He said, "Can I go to the bathroom?"

I went to the bathroom nearby.

Unexpectedly, the place was far away and it was a little lined up

if this is the case, on the contrary

I might make you wait. "

Turn around in front of the bathroom.

to return to the meeting place.

although i took a mysterious action

(Long explanation)

I asked my friend, "Did you go to the bathroom?"

When I was asked and told this story

With a face that I really don't understand

(It's not a bad feeling at all lol)

I was told, "What! You should just go normally."

That's right after all, and

I felt indescribable. Lol

it's hard to put into words

From a long time ago, I have been "good at being spoiled by people."

I can't do that.

As in this story, "Ask people to wait."

Starting with the fact that

Make a little request or something

Confess your troubles, etc.

a little bit of leaning on the other person

I'm not good at it.

Usually something about the people around you.

I tend to be tingling, but

Regardless of waiting, being asked to do something

When it comes to being confided in your worries

Even though it seems like "I'm glad you can rely on me"

(Well, the request depends on the content and the person, lol)

When I become the side I ask for, I just can't get motivated.

I wrote at the beginning, "I'm sorry to keep you waiting.

Go right in front of the bathroom and make a U-turn. "

I think the story is a prominent example, but

Like this, if I had to say

by self-strangling behavior

Even just a stressful day

Making things even harder with your own hands

I feel like I can't deny the feeling of being tailored.

So, recently I have

"Live in balance" in general life

That is the current challenge.

Maybe because black and white thinking is ingrained

Everything is about "Do you do it or not?"

we tend to make extreme choices

At such times, it is a specialty (?)

Making full use of the ability to "think from the other person's perspective"

No matter how much you rely on your partner

after properly assessing whether it will not be a burden

From now on, little by little, in moderation

Actions such as "rely" and "ask"

I want to be able to take...

now, instead of just looking for ways to avoid stress

While considering how to reduce the seeds of stress

With this troublesome personality

I want to get along well.

Delicate-san # delicate I want to connect with Delicate-san # hsp # hsp temperament

2025/3/27 Edited to

... Read moreHSP(Highly Sensitive Person)とは、非常に感受性が強く、周囲の刺激に敏感な人々を指します。こうした特性を持つ方々は、日常生活において他人の期待に応えようとするあまり、自分のニーズを後回しにしがちです。例えば、友人との待ち合わせでトイレに行くことを躊躇する行動が一例です。このような状況では、周囲の人との関係がストレスの要因になることがあります。実際、HSPの人は「何かと自分を責めがち」であるため、小さな頼みごとや悩みを打ち明けることが苦手です。人から頼られることには嬉しさを感じても、頼むことには大きな罪悪感を抱くというのが彼らの特徴です。 このような行動の癖がストレスを生む理由は、他者との関係性に根ざしています。自分の感情やニーズを他人に見せることへの抵抗感から、「頼ることができない」や「自分の気持ちを言語化できない」状況が続きがちです。そのため、『白黒思考に陥る』ことが多く、ストレスの種を増やす要因となります。自分自身ができることを理解し、過度な期待をしないことが重要です。 最近の皆さんの意見を元に、特にHSPの特性が日常生活においてどのように影響を与えるかを検討する価値があります。特に「相手の立場を考える」能力をフル活用しながらも、自分の感情にもう少し正直でいることで、ストレスを感じずに生きる道が見えてくるかもしれません。これからは適度に「頼る」「お願いする」ことを進めていく姿勢が大切です。