Ranking 3 housewives dissatisfied with their husbands

Theme: "Housewife husband Morahara does not notice"

My husband might be a morahara.

It was only a few years after I got married that I started to feel that way. At first, I thought it was a joke and laughed, but gradually it started to weigh heavily on my chest.

For example, about the seasoning of dinner. "It's a little bland" "After all, the taste of my parents' house is better" - such a word made me reflect on "I have to devise more next time." However, when I think about it carefully, there are few words such as "thank you" or "delicious," and it is often deducted rather than evaluated. The accumulation of small negatives has eroded my confidence.

My husband himself probably does not think that his words and actions are "Morahara." In him, it may be a feeling of "just advising" or "just joking." But I am hurt on the receiving side. I think that "Morahara that I do not notice" is troublesome.

Another problem is that the same thing is repeated when it comes to housework and child-rearing. Even though I work part-time and do housework, my husband says, "I'm working better" and "You're a part-time worker, so it's easier." It's true that my husband has more income, but both housework and childcare are invisible labor. If you don t understand the difficulty and neglect it, it will be painful as if you are denied the existence.

The scary thing about Morahara is that the victim thinks that it may be my fault. I also thought that my husband would approve if I worked harder, and that I was complaining because I couldn t reach it, and my self-esteem gradually declined. When I noticed, I was even less likely to complain to my friends. I was embarrassed. To confess that my husband does not value me.

But one day, I found "Morahara Checklist" on the internet.

・ Being told words that deny personality

No matter what you do, you are not appreciated and only shortcomings are pointed out

・ There is no economic freedom and the right to decide is taken away

Your opinion is always taken lightly.

While reading the check items, my chest was surprised. "This is about me." I finally realized that "It's not my fault, there is a problem with my husband's words and actions."

From there, my attitude changed little by little. Instead of replying to my husband, I tried to convey "I" as the subject, "I don't think so" or "I felt this way." Then, at first, my husband was laughing "again exaggerated," but as I conveyed it calmly without exploding my emotions, my attitude gradually changed.

Of course, it does not improve immediately. Morahara is also a long-standing habit, and it has a deep root because the husband himself is unaware. However, my "notice" was the first step. If you are swallowed by "unnoticed Morahara," your mind and body will be broken. That's why I think it's important not to ignore the discomfort you feel.

If there are people who feel "somehow strange" or "hard" for their husbands in the same way, I want you to stop once. Believe in your feelings. And try to speak out to the outside, such as talking to a trusted friend, writing in a diary, using a professional consultation desk. That alone should make you think "I am not alone."

Marriage is something that supports each other. That's why it's not easy to face "a husband who doesn't notice Morahara." But I'm thinking of continuing "ingenuity to tell" before giving up. While protecting my heart.

The Couple # morahara The Housewife's Trouble Self-affirmation I don't notice.