Dealing with jealousy

So I give far too many fucks about my bf. I worry about what he's doing if he isn't talking to me. This might sound like a problem with our relationship, but it's not. It's a problem with me. My issues have ruined previous relationships.

I woke up, and to my surprise he hadn't replied to a goodnight text that I sent. No big deal right? My brain went crazy - he probably went to that party and got really drunk, and talked to other girls. Maybe he even cheated? I thought about every possible scenario and got myself really worked up.

And then I realised the ridiculousness of my thoughts, put down my phone, and went to make breakfast. I decided that today, I'm not going to care.

My own paranoia is destroying me and my relationships, time to stop it.

#letschat #AskLemon8 #jealous #jealousy

2025/1/10 Edited to

... Read moreFeeling overwhelmed by jealousy can be challenging, but it's essential to recognize the roots of these feelings. Jealousy often stems from attachment issues that can harm relationships. To combat this, begin by reflecting on your thoughts and fears. Ask yourself what triggers your jealousy and whether these concerns are valid. Engaging in open communication with your partner can also alleviate worries. Express your feelings in a constructive manner and encourage them to share their thoughts too. This mutual understanding fosters trust and builds a solid foundation for your relationship. Additionally, practicing mindfulness and self-care can significantly improve your emotional well-being. Try activities like journaling, meditation, or talking to a therapist to better understand your feelings and develop healthier coping mechanisms. Remember, every relationship has its challenges, but addressing jealousy constructively can lead to stronger bonds and a healthier emotional landscape.

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Sometimes we need to just be in a relationship with ourselves so that we can gain self esteem and the ability to be ok with being alone. It is never a good feeling to be worried about your partner

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