❌I’m not marrying someone I’ve never had sex with.
❌I’m not rolling the dice on my entire marriage and hoping the bedroom magically works out. Absolutely not.
I need a partner who matches me — my desire, my pace, my curiosity, my stamina.
Like… are we into the same things? Do our bodies communicate well? Does the chemistry actually exist when we’re in the moment?
❌I’m not finding that out AFTER signing a lifelong contract.
That’s like buying a house you’ve never walked through and then acting shocked when it’s not what you wanted.
Sex is a big deal. Compatibility is a big deal.
So yes — I believe in sex before marriage.
Not because I’m “rebellious,” but because I’m not willing to build a whole life with someone who can’t meet my expectations sexually. You date to test compatibility. Sexual compatibility is just as important.
You don’t gamble on forever. And I’m not gambling on bad sex.
... Read moreFrom my perspective, sex before marriage is about much more than just physical connection—it's a crucial way to ensure long-term happiness and compatibility. When you get to know someone intimately, you learn about your partner’s desires, boundaries, and how well your bodies and minds align. This can prevent a lot of heartbreak and dissatisfaction down the road.
In my experience, many people overlook how important sexual compatibility is, often assuming it will naturally fall into place after marriage. But the truth is, intimacy requires communication and chemistry, and these are not guaranteed. Waiting until marriage to explore this aspect can lead to serious issues if needs and expectations don’t match.
Think of it like buying a house without inspecting it first. You wouldn’t commit to something so significant without checking every detail—that’s what sex before marriage allows. It’s a way to ensure you’re building your future with someone who genuinely connects with you on every level, including sexually.
Sex is also a form of vulnerability and trust. Being open about what you want and don’t want creates a strong foundation of honesty. Plus, discovering shared interests and preferences in the bedroom can deepen emotional intimacy outside of it.
For anyone considering the traditional route of abstaining until marriage, I encourage reflecting on the importance of knowing your partner fully. It’s not about rebellion; it’s about making an informed commitment. After all, marriage is forever, and feeling confident in every aspect of that union—including sexual compatibility—can make all the difference in enjoying a satisfying and enduring relationship.
if you have chemistry outside the bedroom your also gonna have it inside the bedroom...also there are plenty of things to try that are sexual that isn't penatration....so you can find out everything you just talked abt without doing the deed. coming from someone who met my man in a hook up 😂 yes I'm Christian but I don't really care abt if it's sex before or after but ima be real honest here. You don't need to have penatration to know if someone would match you in the bedroom...This is why there are more then one way to be sexual and why we have mouths to talk and communicate abt how we like it and how our drive/stamina is. if you wanna fk before marriage just say that but don't make excuses as to why it might be dumb to wait for marriage to have sex. If a guy knows how to do a proper make out and do other sexual things well then your gonna be ok lol.
It’s like buying a car only to find out it doesn’t have an engine