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The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse often runs in a cycle: intense love and closeness, then criticism and confusion, then just enough warmth to pull you back in. That back-and-forth can create a trauma bond, which is a survival attachment, not a weakness.

You do not have to earn basic respect. You do not have to prove what happened. And you are not “crazy” for feeling stuck.

If you’re in this right now, focus on safety and support first. A plan and a support system can change everything.

#NarcissisticAbuse #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #EmotionalAbuse #TraumaBond

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